Lessons In Keeping Your Mouth Shut from Nerd Guru - Alienate Teammates the Brady Quinn way

One of my favorite blogs is Nerd Guru. I know I have mentioned that before. Pete Johnson, the author of Nerd Guru, wrote a fantastic post that I think is relevant in many areas of our lives. I have written a few posts about being careful what you say, what you document, and what you videotape because I think we should be mindful of how our words and deeds reflect upon us (and our loved ones). Pete's post about Brady Quinn is well written and a fun read...so enjoy!

Alienate Teammates the Brady Quinn way

How was your weekend? Better than Brady Quinn's, I bet. He lost an estimated $30 million in potential income over the next 5-6 years and likely alienated 50+ teammates he hasn't even met yet in the process.

If you are like me and a fan of pro football (the American kind, to be clear for my non-US readers), you probably know that the annual NFL Draft was held this past weekend. The biggest story by far on Saturday was when Notre Dame quarterback Brady Quinn was expected to be a very high pick in the first round but was not. As is not uncommon, the many of the teams with the first few selections in this year's draft performed poorly last season because of poor quarterback play. Because of this, Quinn was expected to be taken 3rd overall by the Cleveland Browns, a perennially bad team. According to several pre-draft reports, this was all fine for the Ohio native Quinn, who hoped to be able to sign a contract similar to the one that the 3rd pick in the 2005 draft, Tennessee Titan quarterback Vince Young, signed last year -- which is worth as much as $58 million over the his first 6 seasons.

Then something happened that Quinn didn't expect. The Browns drafted somebody else with the 3rd pick. So did the Tampa Bay Buccaneers with the 4th pick, whose starting quarterback last season ruptured his spleen during a game. With Matt Leinart as their top pick last year, the Arizona Cardinals didn't need a quarterback. And so it went. Quinn's last shot at being a top 10 pick rested in the hands of the Miami Dolphins, a team with which he worked out for extensively during the pre-draft auditioning process. Instead, the Dolphins used the 9th pick on wide receiver Ted Ginn and Quinn continued to be passed up by teams that didn't need a quarterback. It looked like nobody wanted this guy.

Finally, Cleveland orchestrated a trade with Dallas that landed them the 22nd pick in the first round and they used it to select Quinn. Since the value of a player is so tightly coupled with his draft position, though, his salary would be significantly less. ESPN analyst and NFL expert John Clayton estimated that Quinn lost as much as $30 million on Saturday by being selected 22nd instead of being picked 3rd. When I heard that, I genuinely felt bad for the guy.

That is, until I heard his reaction and that of his family later in the day.

In a Yahoo! Sports article entitled "Bitter Beginnings" Brady Quinn and his family came across as pretty ungrateful and have no idea how good they have it.

"He missed a lot of childhood dreams and goals: winning the national championship, winning the Heisman [Trophy], and being the No. 1 pick. They all just faded away," said his mother Robin, not realizing how much closer her son got to those goals than the general populace of people with similar dreams.

Quinn himself trotted out the motivational card when he said, "You've got to feel all of the teams that passed up on you, you have to come out with a chip on your shoulder. That just builds the motivation. All of the negative things that people say, all of the things that happened in college, all through this entire process."

Huh? What team did he want to play for? The Cleveland Browns. What team is he going to play for? Uh, the Cleveland Browns who gave up two other picks in the trade with Dallas in order to get him. He got picked by the team he wanted and is going to be a multi-millionaire.

And the problem is . . . . . what, exactly? The problem is that $30 million he won't be getting now. While he has spent considerable time talking about being snubbed, what he's really doing is airing his frustrations about the significant financial opportunity he missed out on the national media and, by extension, his mostly lesser paid teammates heard every word.

Think about that for a second with the team you work on. I bet everybody knows who the highest paid person on your team is, and imagine being at a team meeting where he or she starts crying about the pittance of a raise he or she received this year. How would that make you feel? How many favors would you want to do for that person after that? What would such complaining do to your attitude towards that person?

This has to be what at least some of the Cleveland Browns are going through this week. Alienated by a guy who has yet to play in the NFL and is already upset about money when he'll be paid more than most everybody else. Not exactly a great way to build synergy.

Do you have a right to complain about things from time to time? Of course you do. Everybody does. All humans on this planet have things not go their way every once in a while.

There are just better forums for complaints than ones where you can irritate those you have to work with that would love to be well off enough to have your problems. In front of others, you have an obligation to stay positive or at least be non-responsive to negative things going on with your job, especially when you already have it better than everyone else. And that's the kind of comment you can't take back, although Quinn was quite humbled on Sunday after the media fallout of his Saturday when he said, "Everyone was saying that I was losing money. Well, I never had it to lose. In my wallet, I have, like, maybe a dollar in cash."

This is the kind of scenario where, if you aren't careful, you can burn bridges in your long term relationships and that will eventually come back to negatively impact you in some way. Unlike Brady Quinn, our melodramas don't usually play out in the pages of ESPN.com but the lessons to be learned are the same. Appreciate what you have and keep your mouth shut in public even when you do have something legitimate to grouse about. Otherwise, you run the risk of damaging relationships you are going to need